Why Is It Women Run A Mile If Ur A Single Dad | Single Parents

Hi
I think it depends on the age group..........
Under 30's,  still want to live life to the full with no commitments, and the over 40's have been there and raised their kids, that's just my opinion .
I can't talk for anybody else, and of course not everyone is the same. But perhaps something to consider, and it depends on the age of the kids also

Good luck on the site, and with your search

xallhandsx wrote:

why do women run from single dads?

I am sorry to hear that... but maybe girls just run (full stop) i mean lets face it... it's not easy to pull a fine young lady for anyone these days is it?... people stay in, their worlds are getting smaller and smaller... less friends, less time out doing things, less everything! So when they are single themselves... they want to find something to do!

the comment above this is great... Absolutely age based
Although obviously it is very generic

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When i was a young whipper snapper, a confident male could go out and spend all his time on one girl just making her feel really special, and that really was the maiin importance... now? naaa it's all changed - Girls seem to generally want  perfect match and living in an imperfect world!!! Well it's harder to be what they want!

these days? crazy mate!!!

MOAN lol

just a thought... not sure i even agree with it lol
peace

I wouldnt run if the man i met had kids. I'm a single mum so i know how they feel.

well....i would run.....coz i like being the center of attention in a relationship (at least in the begining)....children are difficult to manage especially when they are not ur own.....

Why dont u go for women who are single mums....they would know exactly what u r going through, and have just as much in common with u......

This is a hard one...
I wouldn't say i would run a mile if i met a single dad but as sad as it sounds i wouldn't be as keen to get involved with him... relationships are hard enough at times anyway so if there is a child involved it makes it hader. and like chatterboxrookie said us girls like to feel center of attention especialy at the start (selfish i know, but true)

I also think its a maternal thing i can only speak for myself but i think if i already had a child of my own it wouldn't be a big deal takin on someone elses but as things stand i'd want my first experiences of parental responabilitys to be for my own...

Good luck in your search i'm sure there is women out there that would have no problem with single dads

i can only say that woman are always saying"i want a man thats loving and caring and doesnt just think about himself and out all the time" so as a single parent to a 3 yr old son who i am the only carer, i am loving, caring, i def do not just think about myself and its hard to get out at times . and my son has taught me all these things and made me a much better person for me, him and for the next lady in my life. and to be honest i should not have to just stick to looking for a single mother who understands, a single lady who takes us on would be twice as loved as they are willing to take that chance, not selfish and i would probably give them more attention than normal due to these facts.
   what  some men and ladies lack is compassion and the willingness to sacrifice just that little bit for others rather than expecting the other person to change for them.
  this has upset me a little to what someone (a lady) said on this forum and this is from the heart, something this lady does not have much of by the looks of it.


to all single parents male and female, good luck to you all, dont dispare and that special person will come along and accept everything you are and everything your child is and will be happy to do so.

  never be desperate, just go with the flow cos at the end of the day your child needs you .

   good luck to you all with all my love.

decoman wrote:

i can only say that woman are always saying"i want a man thats loving and caring and doesnt just think about himself and out all the time" so as a single parent to a 3 yr old son who i am the only carer, i am loving, caring, i def do not just think about myself and its hard to get out at times . and my son has taught me all these things and made me a much better person for me, him and for the next lady in my life. and to be honest i should not have to just stick to looking for a single mother who understands, a single lady who takes us on would be twice as loved as they are willing to take that chance, not selfish and i would probably give them more attention than normal due to these facts.
   what  some men and ladies lack is compassion and the willingness to sacrifice just that little bit for others rather than expecting the other person to change for them.
  this has upset me a little to what someone (a lady) said on this forum and this is from the heart, something this lady does not have much of by the looks of it.


to all single parents male and female, good luck to you all, dont dispare and that special person will come along and accept everything you are and everything your child is and will be happy to do so.

  never be desperate, just go with the flow cos at the end of the day your child needs you .

   good luck to you all with all my love.

You say you are not thinking of yourself and that young women who would demur at dating a single father "lack compassion and the willingness to sacrifice", but if you had read as much as I have of what they have posted elsewhere you would know that they do not lack compassion (you can only be referring to either cbr or claire in this context).

It seems to me that you are, in fact, lacking a basic understanding of their position. Try to put yourself there for a minute; they are young women who, if they want children, would almost certainly want their own rather than someone else's who might in any case resent them as usurping their mother's place or as a rival for their father's love.

What you also have to remember is that this is a forum in which members are free to express opinions and that they should not be criticized for doing so as long as what they say is not abusive or generally offensive.

weel I must admit I have my daughter only 50% of the time and yet I find that girls / ladies have just as many issues.. I think it's because I'm ugly..

Seriously though, I can totally understand why a single child free person would think twice before dating a person with children.. at the end of the day it's a lot to take on when you are just starting a relationship..

That said I would never introduce my daughter to someone who may only be a fleeting presence in her life so dating me (and I think most similarly placed parents) is just dating me.. albeit with limited time together initially as I could only be free when I don't have my daughter.

The comments above about dating single parents when you are a single parent though do make a lot of sense. Of course another single parent will understand your own situation better and having been through similar experiences may well be someone you can share quality time with more freely. It seems odd to say that you are 'restricted' to other single parents when your initial issue was that you found it wierd how girls weren't interestedc in you as a single parent.. surely you should be just as open to dating as you expect they are?

xallhandsx wrote:

why do women run from single dads?

I don't run from single dads, in fact I tend to look mostly for someone who has kids because I am a single mum and I need to meet someone who understands about juggling the kids!

l am a single mum my self but b4 l had children l went out with a bloke wh had children and it didnt bother me one bit infact it made me want children off my own they are just great and if l had a partner who has children it would not bother me more the beter ha ha

It is about compromising your time. I will try and be serious for once on this forum. Yeah, fair point who said under 30s still want to discover life and live it to the full. I can't speak for over 40s though

My prerogative though is to prioritise time. When you got a kid, you can't go out all the time (well you could, but it's not the ideal). Make time to see kids, work and play. The harder you work, the harder you can play. After all everybody needs to let their hair down sometimes

No way would I be put off by a single dad, whatever age is children are.  I would be a bit weary if there was a problematic mum in the background who would make life difficult, but if we got on ok or if he was the one, it is  the person what counts not what their circumstances are.
There are thinks that would put me off dating a man but having children is not one of them.

if a man ran from a single mother would that be right ?
so if a woman runs is she in the right
or is it too much  because they wont have the full attention or is it they are scared of getting involved with someone elses children ?

chatterboxrookie wrote:

well....i would run.....coz i like being the center of attention in a relationship (at least in the begining)....children are difficult to manage especially when they are not ur own.....

Why dont u go for women who are single mums....they would know exactly what u r going through, and have just as much in common with u......

thats just it see, i think most peaple are selfish these days and its every man for himself ,(im not pointing the finger at you directly) ,how can we trust each other with all the backstabbing going on,even a healthy relationship can be broken by jelous mates who will quite happily lie through their teeth just to ruin your life,because theirs didnt work out as they expected it to.m a single dad ,peaple watch me like a hawk ,and look horrified ,that a youngish male is looking after a kid,wemen like to tell me what to do,but not one will go out with me,hell its like a jail sentence,my life has stopped in its tracks literally. i know for a fact that some females are jeolous ,because they cannot have kids ,fair enough,but what about the other 99%? .at least i stood by my kid and raised him since he was born ,because his mother did not give a damn,she ran off with a another bloke.and to date another single parent is difficult ,your basically just the doormat,you cant tell them off when they have done wrong,they are not yours and kids been kids will play on that,because they know they can wind you up and get away with it ,who wants that? ,I know because im a parent ,and if ANYONE told my kid off,or smacked him their out.kid comes first.so single ladys do not like that,nor can i blame them

jesus234 wrote:

if a man ran from a single mother would that be right ?
so if a woman runs is she in the right
or is it too much  because they wont have the full attention or is it they are scared of getting involved with someone elses children ?

a woman can blame a man for anything and get away with it ,men dont stand a chance,if a man runs he is a coward ,if a woman runs ,the man is a wifebeater whether or not he actually did it or not.

hi
all i can say is that old cliche of whats for you wont go by you, you know, if you like somebody things that would normally bother you well you would learn to deal with and yes if they run they either dont like kids or still wana get out n about n have fun all the time which isnt  always that easy to do when you have kids eh so i would say the ones that arent interested in single fathers arent for you and you should only be interested in the ones that are.