Hes Just Not That Into You | Dating Experiences

It depends on the man. Some are quite shy or find it difficult to open up to a woman that they are attracted to. Also some have been "knocked back" so many times they won't take a chance unless they are sure that the woman in question is interested. Of course there are a large amount of men who wouldn't recognise a subtle hint unless you wrapped it around a bat and beat them over the head with it .

if you are a brave girl and most importantly you are attracted to him, you will ask him out that's today's world: women gotta do everything by themselves!

Agrees with d_elle,now this may come out wrong on here,but we here so many things about feminism,etc,and still women wait for the guy to ask,its scary enough just saying hello sometimes never mind do you want to go for a drink sometime,i think more women should take the initiative,or is it cos im a big scaredy cat,hmm....get back to you on that on!!!

mellyg wrote:

if a man really wants you he will let you know.........is this true??? or sometimes would he walk away because hes not sure how you feel???

Im pretty shy, and I dont think I could ever make the first move. I also dont think I could ask someone how she felt about me. I probs would walk away and have massive regrets after

flathead_45 wrote:

It depends on the man. Some are quite shy or find it difficult to open up to a woman that they are attracted to. Also some have been "knocked back" so many times they won't take a chance unless they are sure that the woman in question is interested. Of course there are a large amount of men who wouldn't recognise a subtle hint unless you wrapped it around a bat and beat them over the head with it .

Im definately one of thsoe guys!!!

You're not the only one.

acually I saw this guy online and winked at him,i think he is lovely,we are in touch and Im going to visit him in his home town, we cant wait to meet,Im glad I made the first move

mellyg wrote:

if a man really wants you he will let you know.........is this true??? or sometimes would he walk away because hes not sure how you feel???

Sometimes when a guy does let you know how he is feeling it gets taken advantage of by my experience so maybe thats why some people 'play it cool' for want of a better phrase.  Although i've been hurt loads life is way too short so why not try and see what happens

I love women coming up and being up front with me.  It can be difficult for guys to take the lead all the time.  I reckon if you know what you want, you should go get it!

A look, a smile, a wink, a touch or just a simple hello, he can only say no.........and then it's his loss. We men are very dumb when it comes to the female of the species, and we need all the help that we can get

I think it would depend on the situation , I have in the past dated a woman after we had become great friends ,only for her to ask me how i hadn't noticed her flirting with me to the point of embarassment ,And i can honestly say NO!
I genuinely must go round with blinker's on . And I agree with the lads before , I sometimes feel a real attraction towards a woman but end up walking away and saying nothing and regretting it later .In summary if i were you i would just let them know, Cos they could be as shy as the rest of us and it could be a chance lost .Anyway good luck to you

I find that making the first approach to a woman you are attracted to to be absolutely terrifying, and I can't do it at all unless I am so beered up that I'm gonna make a mess of it anyway. Drunken mumbling is not attractive! It (I mean the terror, not the drunken mumbling) is the biggest single obstacle to my forming a relationship, and once overcome everything falls easily into place.

Apart from the fear of rejection (and Cardiff girls are savage in that regard), there is also the fear in the back of my mind that the woman will regard me as some sort of predatory pervert, and say so.

I would be absolutely delighted if a woman made the first move towards me. It has only ever happened to me once, and led to a one night stand.

Thank you in advance to all of you who are going to tell me to man up and be more confident. I am not more confident, and in awe of men who are. Please note that awe does not equal admiration, I also think that they are arrogant and vain. Can't win, why do I keep playing?

friend4ever58 wrote:

acually I saw this guy online and winked at him,i think he is lovely,we are in touch and Im going to visit him in his home town, we cant wait to meet,Im glad I made the first move

he's a very lucky man,hope he's honest?.have fun..

fatboy6 wrote:

I find that making the first approach to a woman you are attracted to to be absolutely terrifying, and I can't do it at all unless I am so beered up that I'm gonna make a mess of it anyway. Drunken mumbling is not attractive! It (I mean the terror, not the drunken mumbling) is the biggest single obstacle to my forming a relationship, and once overcome everything falls easily into place.

Apart from the fear of rejection (and Cardiff girls are savage in that regard), there is also the fear in the back of my mind that the woman will regard me as some sort of predatory pervert, and say so.

I would be absolutely delighted if a woman made the first move towards me. It has only ever happened to me once, and led to a one night stand.

Thank you in advance to all of you who are going to tell me to man up and be more confident. I am not more confident, and in awe of men who are. Please note that awe does not equal admiration, I also think that they are arrogant and vain. Can't win, why do I keep playing?

I agree, you can't just decide to be more confident...............but you can decide to pretend you're more confident. You'll know about this stuff, physical behaviour effects the mind as much as mind effects physical behaviour..................if you're feeling miserable then smile and soon your 'mood' will change....that kind of thing.

One of the beauties about strangers is, they don't know you. You can 'try on' different ways of doing things, without them thinking 'what on earth is up with FB today....he's acting very oddly (moreso then usual that is)' 

Have ago, pretend to be James Bond, John Cleese, Capt Kirk................whoever/whatever.........if nothing else you'll have a bit of fun, but you may just fnd something that works! 

can i just ask? why cant you ladies, tell us silly , stupid,lowlife,boys?what you really want from us,because it's you that pick us,we just buz around you delicious flowers,until we get attention, then you mold us into what you was'nt looking for in the first place? we can't win... bless ya all ladies, i love it....x

i never walk away if i dont know how a women is feeling then i just ask its then up to the women to tell me i am not going to gesss could get it wrong then were's that leave me, so not all men walk away

mellyg wrote:

if a man really wants you he will let you know.........is this true??? or sometimes would he walk away because hes not sure how you feel???

yes that is true most of the time a man will let you know but some times it's bloody hard work with some girls so we jest walk away

Hi Melly

From your question this suggests that there is someone you are interested in and he has yet to respond to your hints?

Its quite simple really, if you want something or someone just ask  ! Its not cosmic ordering exactly but men (and women) so often sit around and wait for something to happen and guess what - it never does !! Youre right to suspect that men can be prettty slow on the uptake - so if you really want to get this person to know how you feel, dont stew any longer - make the first move !! If hes not interested, its his loss  !! Good luck !!

Steve

I work on Construction/Civil Engineering, and at one time a girl who was definitely "Available" would walk past where you were working and a bit later again, So a man on this sort of work would give her a discreet whistle. But not anymore if I was to do that at work the chances are that I'd be sacked for **** harassment. It was women complaining about it that started it.
The same goes for a man chatting up a woman in a supermarket she only has to say to security. I'm being harassed and it's a visit to the Police station.Of course they examples are a bit OTT but it has happened.
Mind I do not mind ladies chatting me up. with a cricket bat.:
Bye Sid