Flirting | Flirting Tips And Advice

steve12310 wrote:

Guys,

I am not sure you can help but perhaps you can....

I have joined this site a week or so ago and i have emailed a few ladies i liked the look and sound of on profile but i get nothing back .

Is it something i am doing wrong or am i not the type of bloke a girl would go for etc...


I am starting to feel worse rather than positive now lol...

I am a geuie guy who respectful and loving and heart big enough to feel england...

Any advice would be appreciated....

Hi Steve,

have you introduced yourself on the newbies bit of the forum?

Have you completed your profile fully and honestly?

Don't take it personally if people don't reply just move on and try again.

Good luck!

I agree with all those who've said flirting is nothing to do with exchanging thoughts on what you'd like to do to each other.
Flirting is and should be fun!

adeysnite wrote:

flirtin its free! best things in life are free

Anyone who says best things in life are free are normally tight

rubberlove1 wrote:

adeysnite wrote:

flirtin its free! best things in life are free

Anyone who says best things in life are free are normally tight

You are so predictable............. if anything can be said of a negative nature you're there, if not you don't reply to the post. I haven't seen one post from you that isn't either negative, demeaning, putting someone down or just being down right rude to people. You must be quite a sad individual to be feeling so superior towards the rest of the human race.

One of the (very) few good things about getting older is that I can flirt outrageously with young girls ( to me, up to 30 ) with impunity. I have to make sure that its so outrageous that there's no chance of them taking me seriously. After all, what could we possibly have a conversation about?
I don't think I'm totally moribund; I have catholic tastes in books and music, the latter from the '20s to date - e.g., I like Elbow, among others, am not sure yet about Sweet Billy Pilgrim but, worryingly, can remember the publication of the (almost certain) source of the band's name.
So I'll flirt with young girls, its just a bit of fun and makes both parties feel good, but when it comes to wanting a relationship I'll gladly stick with those nearer my own age.

al-terego wrote:

One of the (very) few good things about getting older is that I can flirt outrageously with young girls ( to me, up to 30 ) with impunity. I have to make sure that its so outrageous that there's no chance of them taking me seriously. After all, what could we possibly have a conversation about?
I don't think I'm totally moribund; I have catholic tastes in books and music, the latter from the '20s to date - e.g., I like Elbow, among others, am not sure yet about Sweet Billy Pilgrim but, worryingly, can remember the publication of the (almost certain) source of the band's name.
So I'll flirt with young girls, its just a bit of fun and makes both parties feel good, but when it comes to wanting a relationship I'll gladly stick with those nearer my own age.

Hey al-terego you should get in touch with DC on this one as he loves ELBOW.

Yes, I know, LL, but I wouldn't get a word in edgeways.

But to reinforce my comment about the difficulty of communication across a wide age gap; do you, for instance, have any idea what I meant about the origin of the name "Sweet Billy Pilgrim"?..............without googling it...be honest !!

al-terego wrote:

Yes, I know, LL, but I wouldn't get a word in edgeways.

But to reinforce my comment about the difficulty of communication across a wide age gap; do you, for instance, have any idea what I meant about the origin of the name "Sweet Billy Pilgrim"?..............without googling it...be honest !!

In all honesty no.
However I was interested enough (cos love learning about new things) to Google it.
I don't check age when I engage on the forums, it's more important to exchange banter and thoughts.

It's the same for me too, when I do get some replies, it usually comes from **** from Russia or Nigeria !
What on earth is going on ?

qwertyuiop789 wrote:

It's the same for me too, when I do get some replies, it usually comes from **** from Russia or Nigeria !
What on earth is going on ?

From talking to peeps on here the **** in the main hit you when you are showing up  as new. Then you will get the odd one every couple of days, I've learnt to ignore them and they usuallly go away.
Good luck.

I wish someone would give me some tips on flirting, being shy does not help at all

Bacchus52 wrote:

I wish someone would give me some tips on flirting, being shy does not help at all

Hiya mate...
i have to say I think being shy is a tool to use to your advantage... I think; most girls like to see that... I guess it is quite a complement to them if you feel shy around them because they are having that effect on you
My suggestion is this... make yourself talk! if you do... it will be a shy around her but otherwise confident look, and that would look like you are flirting very well indeed
You know... Sometimes having a soft and innocent behavior created via shyness is a nateral state of flirt

& like with anything you do.. after awhile you adapt it confidently and become able to turn that side of your personality on and off at will... It is all about learning it to do it, do it enough and it will imprint it's self in your mind

I wish you well... & allot of luck to
peace

x_jadeybaby_x wrote:

Well i generally only flirt with guys i would be willing to let screw me. hehe.

x x x x x

Well if I had 'screwed' every girl I had ever flirted with I would be giving Russell Brand a run for his money!! haha

Don't fall into the misconception that because the guy flirts he is serious.

bigus_dickus wrote:

Bacchus52 wrote:

I wish someone would give me some tips on flirting, being shy does not help at all

Hiya mate...
i have to say I think being shy is a tool to use to your advantage... I think; most girls like to see that... I guess it is quite a complement to them if you feel shy around them because they are having that effect on you
My suggestion is this... make yourself talk! if you do... it will be a shy around her but otherwise confident look, and that would look like you are flirting very well indeed
You know... Sometimes having a soft and innocent behavior created via shyness is a nateral state of flirt

& like with anything you do.. after awhile you adapt it confidently and become able to turn that side of your personality on and off at will... It is all about learning it to do it, do it enough and it will imprint it's self in your mind

I wish you well... & allot of luck to
peace

Practicing overcomes shyness, as it does everything. Just getting a girls' number increases confidence. Ok, you got their number but that's just the start. Some things just aren't meant to be. It's a learning curve.

I may get some stick for this, but I think shyness needs to be overcome. I overcame it years ago and am glad I did. It is like someone who is fat losing weight - fair shout. Why would somebody be 'fat and proud' it is costly to the NHS

gord779 wrote:

Practicing overcomes shyness, as it does everything. Just getting a girls' number increases confidence. Ok, you got their number but that's just the start. Some things just aren't meant to be. It's a learning curve.

I may get some stick for this, but I think shyness needs to be overcome. I overcame it years ago and am glad I did. It is like someone who is fat losing weight - fair shout. Why would somebody be 'fat and proud' it is costly to the NHS

To some extent, I think you're right. However, not all shyness is conditioned.

I am naturally an introvert, as was my mother. That is governed by genetics. My natural shyness was exacerbated by an authoritarian father who was, himself, the product of a Victorian-style upbringing. Over time my mother was able to assert herself more, just as I learned to do.

The difficulty in being an introvert and trying to be more outgoing is that one is stepping beyond one's natural boundaries and may, as a result, go over the top. The only way of combatting that is through experience and, yes, even at my age I am nervous about making a first contact with a woman. In my experience most women find it a little reassuring if you explain how difficult you find it when you make the first approach. There are, however cases of pathological shyness which are treatable clinically though, like overcoming ordinary shyness, it is a lengthy process.

I'd agree, too, that there are probably more overweight people who have that condition through insufficient exercise and poor diet than there are whose condition is the result of a medical condition or pure genetic disposition. I'm currently 1.82m & 160lbs (down about 30lbs from when I was truly fit) as a result of my genetic makeup. I have friends of the same height who take much more exercise than I and weigh around 240lbs. OK, they drink more beer than I do but the essential difference is genetic.

Couch potatoes I have no time for, but you cannot tar everyone with the same brush.