Dating More Than 1 Person | Relationship Issues

Hi knight 2309
I know where your coming from i have met a few guys from sites & most have been nightmarish so it makes it easy for me to move on,
Well  i met 3 guys this month the 1st we met we continued chatting then he went all quiet didn,t hear from him, so i txt saying whats going on because i,m not gonna sit around being played, he responded, '' I want u in bed & on my part thats totally selfish & u deserve better than that, because i respect u hun'' I had to laugh at that so instead responded with............ good to know, but its funny how All guys wanna get me into bed yet they respect me! After knowing its not going to happen & go cold on me.

So on to number 2 was not what he said he was on his profile forget jackell & hyde he was the worst ever but you can read about that else where lol

I went on a date last night & he was an absolute gent perfect in most ways we chatted had a nice time & will meet again next wk but i am open & when he asked am i going on anymore dates i said yes because i want to know i,m totally compatible with some one & keepin an open mind to

The best thing is to find out how the person feels if there is any chance of it becoming long term trust your instints, if you feel its not going anywhere date others coz you could end up on the shelf playing the waiting game (is someone going to choose me?) its not cheating its seeing if there is someone out there for you who will be your perfect partner & your mates are right because your not committed to anyone, hope that helps

ps u sound lovely & have a heart your princess will be found soon & u will know about it gd luck hun x

i think its not too bad dating more than one at the early stages of a relationship because you may be unsure, but once you have that 'exclusive' talk and you know where each other stands then you should be faithful

jst think how would u feel if she was dating someone else - if you wasnt bothered then why are u dating her in the first place? if you are bothered then you have ur answer...

x

From another guy, but (dare I say it one who is old enough to be your father),  is not at the present actually dating.

So long as you are honest with the lady, admitting that you may have the occaional date with someone else until you get to know each other better, I see not real problem.  Providing, of course, you are not jumping into bed with either of them.

If she could not accept that situation from me, then she is not the right one to go on a subsequent date anyway.

Best of luck to both of you.

It  hasn't got me anywhere so far but I stick to the principle of never two-timing. Depends on whether you care whether she finds out or not because the chances are that she will. You need to be honest in a relationship so you may as well start out that way

StrawberryMoon wrote:

i think its not too bad dating more than one at the early stages of a relationship because you may be unsure, but once you have that 'exclusive' talk and you know where each other stands then you should be faithful

jst think how would u feel if she was dating someone else - if you wasnt bothered then why are u dating her in the first place? if you are bothered then you have ur answer...

x

SPOT ON

StrawberryMoon  i lurve you

hey if u feel u are getting to know the real person and u like her for the way she is, ignore those friends who said that, go with ur gut feeling, if it says no, then dont, if it says go for it, then do it, u will know

knight2309 wrote:

Advise Please

I Agree with you. I was getting to know a guy and found we were getting on really well. Was arranging to meet. When asked what he did last night and he told me he was on a date with a very nice lady but not his cup of t. Not sure I wanted to know that.....
Its a fine line to know who is right on this one. He said it was dating site so thts what you do.... Perhaps I am not up with the times....


I have been on several dating sites mostly to no avail but i have recently met a woman who i have dated a couple of times and found her to be charming, witty and just generaly good company and the first woman i have dated since i have split from my dreaded marriage.  I have told a couple of friends of mine and thier advise is not to put all my eggs in 1 basket and date other women but to me thats treating women with disrespect or playing 1 against the other. If i dated some 1 else and still not knowing what the other person feels about me i could potentialy be hurting some 1's feelings and that is not what i am all about, as it is we are all on here to find our soul m8 weather you find her on the first date or 100th date.

Has any 1 got any views or advise on this matter it would be appreciated

Well some one said that they are keeping an open mond on dating more than one person at a time . I dont double date If we are not compatable or there is no chemistry then split no hard feelings . If a woman told me that she was dating others then that would put me right off and that would be that

What are you lot saying?
Is life too short.
Is there a sole mate for everyone.
Are we all jugglers of people.
Are we looking for **** machines.
Are our emotions that damaged that we have to result to being shady.
NO!
I most certainly am not. I am not a two timer, polygamist or a swinger . I do have friends who are female and would not consider a relationship with them for many reasons, such as Religion, **** orientation, Vegetarianism, just to mention a few. I have the utmost respect for my friends and I feel no shame in talking about then to a potential candidate for a relationship. On the other hand I may feel a little uncomfortable if the boot were on the other foot, having to participate  in conversations of mail friends of my current date.
There must be some gray aria of tolerance here surely?

I think it's called dating, not a relationship? correct me if I'm wrong, but the purpose of dating is getting to know someone well enough to decide if they are relationship material. I think as long as you are honest with the people you are dating, then there shouldn't be an issue. 

I mean why not open up your options, this way you don't  focus too hard on one person. In my experiance it makes you look needy, and only drives people away. Kill 2 birds with 1 stone You will be less focused on 1 person, and your potential to meet that special somone double or more.

knight2309 wrote:

Advise Please

I have been on several dating sites mostly to no avail but i have recently met a woman who i have dated a couple of times and found her to be charming, witty and just generaly good company and the first woman i have dated since i have split from my dreaded marriage.  I have told a couple of friends of mine and thier advise is not to put all my eggs in 1 basket and date other women but to me thats treating women with disrespect or playing 1 against the other. If i dated some 1 else and still not knowing what the other person feels about me i could potentialy be hurting some 1's feelings and that is not what i am all about, as it is we are all on here to find our soul m8 weather you find her on the first date or 100th date.

Has any 1 got any views or advise on this matter it would be appreciated

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I have come against the same problem friends advising not to put all me eggs in one basket, i would just go with the flow and see how it goes with this lady. The worst that could happen is that you have to start dating someone new. I am in the same position and have decided to for now "put all my eggs in one basket". Good luck

knight2309 wrote:

Advise Please

I have been on several dating sites mostly to no avail but i have recently met a woman who i have dated a couple of times and found her to be charming, witty and just generaly good company and the first woman i have dated since i have split from my dreaded marriage.  I have told a couple of friends of mine and thier advise is not to put all my eggs in 1 basket and date other women but to me thats treating women with disrespect or playing 1 against the other. If i dated some 1 else and still not knowing what the other person feels about me i could potentialy be hurting some 1's feelings and that is not what i am all about, as it is we are all on here to find our soul m8 weather you find her on the first date or 100th date.

Has any 1 got any views or advise on this matter it would be appreciated

i think it is early days for both of you and maybe shes thinking this 2 as long as ur not using her in any shape or form and nobody is gettin hurt thats the main thing or you could try staying in close touch just u 2 and give it a good try maybe thats better !  only u know whats rite 4 u !

eggs? baskets?...........chickens........ go for it...cheers xx

caroline62 wrote:

hey if u feel u are getting to know the real person and u like her for the way she is, ignore those friends who said that, go with ur gut feeling, if it says no, then dont, if it says go for it, then do it, u will know

May i say you look 'Delicious' in Blue.....mmm

Hi after reading your message I do agree with some of the points your friend has made, however, I think if you do go on a few dates, they prob won't work out too well. It is my opinion that there is not that many people you gel with I mean really gel, so you will just appreciate the woman you like more. Its the old story got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince obviously other way round for you frogs and princesses lol. Good luck and have fun x

my adviCe is to get a dictionary or use spellcheck.

I notice on here that you can actually include married people in your search which does not seem particularly appropriate to me.
Personally, I would not date more than one lady at once, a date might not be a relationship but it also shouldn't be a league and the winner gets the prize. Do you start again next season ?

boggym wrote:

I notice on here that you can actually include married people in your search which does not seem particularly appropriate to me.
Personally, I would not date more than one lady at once, a date might not be a relationship but it also shouldn't be a league and the winner gets the prize. Do you start again next season ?

Well, I make no secret that I am married, technically at least, although my wife has not lived with me and we have not had conjugal relations since 1990. On the other hand I have made it clear on my profile that I am not actively seeking an intimate relationship. Should that change, which is fairly unlikely, I would have to apply for a divorce, but meantime (apologies to Sarah) I see no reason to make the legal profession richer.