SINGLE DADS | Single Parents

JoannaLy wrote:

Cheer up! Having children does not mean we have to be single... I believe I shall find my other half one day... just keep my eyes open

Me too lol!

I have to applaud any single parent who successfully brings up well-rounded children.

I was a single dad for only four months at a transitional time for me. Change from work to mature student; breakdown of marriage; explaining the facts of life to two bright pre-teens enyhralled by a TV programme on foetal development and child-birth (and especially having to explain to a 10yo girl about menstruation and telling her it would be a while before it happened) and generally trying to be all things to them. But as people have said, the hugs nade up for all that.

Apart from the problems caused by the transitions there was actually an upside to my situation. As a mature student of 39 I was surrounded by nubile young girls of 18 or 19 who were keen to baby-sit. What made it even better was that some of them offered to baby-sit even if I wasn't going out

I know I couldn't have managed it if I'd had to hold down my old job which entailed a 3 hour round-trip commute.

So, hats off to you folks and good luck!

Head_in-the_sand wrote:

I really liked reading all the posts about everyones individual experiences as single dads and the occasional mum. I am also a single dad and like other people have said it isn't the easiest thing to do. I have the up most resoect for anyone who has more than one child to look after because my one daughter is a handful!!! But do you know what all she has do to do is give a big bright smile and it becomes more than worthwhile it becomes a blessing.

There are obviously some great people here on this site and I really hope that I can get to know them, it seems so hard to meet new people sometimes so here is hoping that I can make some great new friends.

Hey, there's light at the end of the tunnel. I became a single parent when my son

was only 9 months old due to his father putting drink and his own enjoyment, friends etc before anything

else. The **** wasn't good either lol!!!

I have been always and am so proud of my son and he's recently qualified as an Advanced Engineer!

So everything that's happened, all the sacrifices etc have been so worthwhile.

iam a single dad i have 5 kids from 18 mouths t 13 years old igive my job up t lookafter my kids after my wife pasted awayi hav seen women run went they fined out the kids donot have a mum it is not like i am lookin 4 a mum 4 the kids ?

The worst scenario I can think of is: Dad in prison, mum on the dole

It could get much worse but that is the foundation of Vikki Pollard

Personally speaking, I think being a single dad would be a positive quality. As a single mom, I know just how hard it can be and I find that men without children are often put off by the fact I have a 4 year old, especially as I am 40, and most women of my age, generally speaking have older children. Single Dad's, in my opinion have proved that they are responsible and understand that children often have to be put first.

geordiegirl40 wrote:

Personally speaking, I think being a single dad would be a positive quality. As a single mom, I know just how hard it can be and I find that men without children are often put off by the fact I have a 4 year old, especially as I am 40, and most women of my age, generally speaking have older children. Single Dad's, in my opinion have proved that they are responsible and understand that children often have to be put first.

How many times have you seen "About A Boy"?  Sorry, that is really tasteless of me nevertheless gimme some artistic license.

The often ovelooked fact is that children are individuals as well.

You are either going to hit it off or you are not!

I know a lovely kid, just starting school, he belongs in a rubber room but I can never see that.

There are well behaved kids that, paradoxicaly sometimes I cannot stand the site or sound of.

I am sure the feeling is often mutual.

He's a lovely child of a friend.  He is a maniac and a complete nutter in a supermarket.

You have to spend most of your time stopping him from killing himself, especially if you visit Kidwelly Castle.  Then reins are compulsory since he hasn't yet mastered the art of freebase jumping!

But he is absolutely a lovely kid.

What can you say?

I for one would never look down on being a single parent, yes its a bloody tough job ,   its never going to be easy if you have very young kids, right or wrong i waited for mine to grown up to make it easier for me and them , now 2 of mine have left and gone to do there own thing. its like everything else , you either like someone or you dont , it has nothing to do with having kids ect , like i said i took the easy way out and waited , good luck to all single mum,s and dad,s x

im a single dad of 3 kids aged 12,7and 2 must admit its hard work but just aveto deal with it and i wouldnt be without them but i find it is hard to date coz tryin 2 get a baby sitter to look after the kids is like tryin to get money out of the tax man lol. im sure i will find the right 1 out there someday

Hello,

I'm a single Dad of three, one boy 19 and two girls aged 7 & 4... Yes it's hard work at times but it's also very rewarding as well, i believe that there is someone out there for all of us I just haven't found her yet and who knows she may very well be on this site.... 

As a single parent myself I always understand the hard work and unselfish time it takes to bring up your child or children. Yes it's a lot of hard work and it sometimes feels we are not getting the help we need, but the best thing is the smile on their faces now and again when we get it right.