SINGLE DADS | Single Parents

im a single dad my son was born when i was 16
, hes nearly two now hes called harvey i love him to bits i would do enything for him
due to the mother i cant see him but i am currently in the proces of forms and courts orders to see my son

Hi all! I'm a single dad, I've raised my boy myself from the age of 8 months. He will be 8 in June, and I'm a very proud dad! I LOVE kids! I'd prefer a single mum over someone without kids any day!
Steve. x x x

Its lovely to see so many proud fathers, I am a single mum of 3 beautiful children 6,3 and 1. My ex and i got together and we both had a child each, then we had 2 together, now he doesnt want much to do with the children we had together but is happy enough to look after his other son every weekend and i have to try and fight him to see them because the kids love their dad.

It's men like my ex that but a bad name on fathers!

Keep up the good work fella's

I was raised by just my father and looking back now i have so uch respect for him, as i am now a single parent too i know how hard it can be.



Jen xx

To all the single fathers, fellas I’m pig jealous of all of you, that you have your flesh and blood living with you full-time. My situation is like most men in the Uk, the women get it all in the family courts, fathers don’t have any rights what so ever, as soon as a relationship breaks down, and even tho you’re the best father in the world, she’ll get automatic rights, and you have to spend a fortune going through a back dated useless court system to have 2 weekends per month, if she doesn’t move across the country, and invent a illness, when it your turn to have the children.

So my advice to you all, when to shave every morning look at the man in the mirror and thank your lucky stars, your children are with  you.

too right mate. we do get short shrift from the legal system, especially up here. half of us who do get to see the kids, only get to do so because the mum can't be arsed paying for a babysitter at the weekend. ( don't get me wrong, i'm not saying 'ALL' women are like that..but a disturbing amount are, or they cut your access for ridiculous reasons. i just got cut to two weekends a month, because i told my son that i don't believe in god, and he told his teacher he doesn't either. he's at a catholic school btw.) anyways. yeah. kids = 1st. fitting stuff in around them is hard, but you gotta try it. *shrug*

*clinks glass* here's to those who make the effort.

I was married for 10 years and felt like a single dad for most of it, the reason being my ex wife suffered from uncontrolled epilepsy so my whole time was spent looking after her and bringing my son up virtually single handed. She has since decided to leave me and our son, so now I am officially a single dad. He is 10 years old and just looking after him and being with him is so rewarding. A lot of my time was spent looking after my ex so time with my son was limited, now it isn't and I now know how much I have missed. He has been my rock through many challenges and now I have the opportunity to make it up to him. I still miss the company of a lady though, and spend  a lot of time alone. Just wish someone would take a chance on me!

paul69paul846 wrote:

Hey, most women think that the number of single moms exceeds the number of single dads. Hey all just wanted a show of hands out there to let these ladies know how many of us there are single dads are everywhere.

i am a single dad with 2 girls and we are good at it my kids love being with me and i love them dads are cool...

Single parents come in all shapes and sizes and what matters is that we love and care for our children.  Yes it can be a bit difficult sometimes, but mostly it's great.  Speaking for myself my children see their dad every other weekend and two weeks during the six weeks holiday.  He could have had more access, but didn't and now that he's moved to just outside of London he would find it difficult to see them during the week.  My children a girl 12 and a boy 9, have a Father already so I'm not looking for a new one for them.  I like most single parents miss the shared laughter and intimacy that comes with having a partner you love and respect, so lets not get it twisted not looking for a replacement Father to my kids looking for a best friend, lover, if he happens to have children of his own then yea, more love to give and share is what I say. 

So much love and respect to ALL single parents out there.!!
Marcia

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charmme1 wrote:

Single parents come in all shapes and sizes and what matters is that we love and care for our children.  Yes it can be a bit difficult sometimes, but mostly it's great.  Speaking for myself my children see their dad every other weekend and two weeks during the six weeks holiday.  He could have had more access, but didn't and now that he's moved to just outside of London he would find it difficult to see them during the week.  My children a girl 12 and a boy 9, have a Father already so I'm not looking for a new one for them.  I like most single parents miss the shared laughter and intimacy that comes with having a partner you love and respect, so lets not get it twisted not looking for a replacement Father to my kids looking for a best friend, lover, if he happens to have children of his own then yea, more love to give and share is what I say. 

So much love and respect to ALL single parents out there.!!
Marcia

xx

I think these are all very laudable sentiments, but look at the reality, in Marcias case (apolgies Marcia, I'm just using what you've said as an example....not intended to be anything personal as such) the father sees his kids 66 days a year out of 365.............(every other weekend = 52 days + 14 days summer holidays).

That to me does not equal being a parent. Surely it's an equal and shared responsibility, not occasional visits.

Should another bloke appear on the scene and that becomes a long term relationship,  the likelyhood is he'll see more of the children than the natural father. Whether you choose to believe or not, he will start to take a more active role in the childrens upbringing than their natural father.

So whether the intent is, or isn't, to be looking for a replacement for the natural dad, it will begin to happen..........and anyone with kids who thinks you can separate the 'I just want someone for me' from the fact there will be this evolutionary exposure and development into becoming a surrogate parent,  I genuinely don't believe are being realistic.

well i am a single dad of one 17 year old he has been with me since he was one and yes i have found it hard to find a woman that will put up with him coming first thats y i am still single.

im a single dad 2 of two lovely kids  7 and 9  have been for 5 years now  yes it does get lonely and dating is very hard  my kids havnt seen their mum for a long time now  but we make the best of things  yes its hard and ive shed many a tear about the lonliness and wanting company

im a single dad as well,my wee girl is 8yr old,she is disabled,has athiritus in 49 bones.and at back of eye sockets,we go to hospital every week.she has injections weekly,eye drops daily,infusion once a month.mum left 2 yr ago she is a alcaholic.times are hard sometimes,but i look at her and see a very brave 8yr old little girl,thats why she keeps me going as i do.we do anything 4 our kids,she is my pride and soul,shes also my friend.

Hi,
  i am new here, just been reading your posts, glad to see some faces to the single dads. i have 2 boys 4 and 6,  we have been on our own for the last 4 yrs, and wouldn't change it for anything. i was left with 6 too start with, 4 not mine, but half brothers and sister to mine. very difficult to start with, but got there. when i moved here, they had to return to her because she wouldn't let them move with me. so just the three of us now.
   i am not looking for a mother to my boys,but a friend ,( yes a bond will in time build, and great, but just to say. i am not here to find a mother, but to find some one who will become part of our family,) as they see theirs when she can find the time, sorry to say. it has been lonely and hard, looking at 4 walls most nights, (but more than that, i miss the banter and the cuddles). but now looking to find some new friends in the southend area,and possibly meet some one, as i now feel that the boys would be ok with that now. i have recently moved here. so if you know of any where nice to go too meet people or take the kids , please drop me a line and let me know, would be most greatful. many thanks ian

AronnPhillips wrote:

im a single dad my son was born when i was 16
, hes nearly two now hes called harvey i love him to bits i would do enything for him
due to the mother i cant see him but i am currently in the proces of forms and courts orders to see my son

Sorry Aronn but I have to ask what is your profile pic about ?

paul69paul846 wrote:

Hey, most women think that the number of single moms exceeds the number of single dads. Hey all just wanted a show of hands out there to let these ladies know how many of us there are single dads are everywhere.

I'm a single father but have learnt how to spell Mum or Mum's properly, After all this is England where we have a sense of humour not humor!

chucky837 wrote:

im a single dad as well,my wee girl is 8yr old,she is disabled,has athiritus in 49 bones.and at back of eye sockets,we go to hospital every week.she has injections weekly,eye drops daily,infusion once a month.mum left 2 yr ago she is a alcaholic.times are hard sometimes,but i look at her and see a very brave 8yr old little girl,thats why she keeps me going as i do.we do anything 4 our kids,she is my pride and soul,shes also my friend.

Chuck my heart goes out to you. I had Arthritis in a hip due to the sort of work I do and that on it's own was painful enough, even for a grown man, all I can say is if your daughter has Arthritis in 49 bones she must be in absolute agony and misery, However I have had a hip resurfacing where the two surfaces are more or less ground down a bit and new surfaces screwed and glued in and on. Your daughter is a real brave one. Give her a kiss from me.

Norf-london-boy wrote:

To all the single fathers, fellas I’m pig jealous of all of you, that you have your flesh and blood living with you full-time. My situation is like most men in the Uk, the women get it all in the family courts, fathers don’t have any rights what so ever, as soon as a relationship breaks down, and even tho you’re the best father in the world, she’ll get automatic rights, and you have to spend a fortune going through a back dated useless court system to have 2 weekends per month, if she doesn’t move across the country, and invent a illness, when it your turn to have the children.

So my advice to you all, when to shave every morning look at the man in the mirror and thank your lucky stars, your children are with  you.

Yes it was the same in my case as well I worked bloody hard all over the world while she just shagged and spent all the money I'd put in the bank. Suddenly you find out, and it's just so hard to believe that the woman who you really loved did that to you. You lose your house, are working 150 miles away from the kids don't get to see them as much as you want, and all the while they are being brainwashed into believing you are the worst man ever in the world. My Kids were 12 & 14 when we split up. Now they're 29 and 32. And they don't talk to me, and to be honest it just doesn't make any difference,( I did buy my son a £150 chronograph watch for his 18th  he sold it for £20)  they lose out I shall leave everything to a charity, and none of them will benefit whatsoever. So perhaps with a bit of forethought there could be some damage limitation, such as I did by changing my name but that's a really funny tale when the man called to impose a maintenance order. I still smile when I think about it. under the statutory declarations act of 1835 cost £5.00 including 10 photo copies.

AlanNMN wrote:

I have an 6 year old, and his Mom has not been a part of his lives. The only thing he know about her is what I have told him, and the pictures I have showed him. Over 3 years of not hearing from her I made the effort to track her down and give her the opritunity to be a part of his life. She did make an effort for the first month, then faded away again. I don't mind raising my kid alone, and actually I enjoy it. Lonely? sure at times, but I wouldn't trade the moments I get to spend with my kid for anything. So women don't assume I am looking for a Mom for my kid, because I'm not.

Its a shame not more men r like you i am a single mum and in this day and age im actually looking more for a single dad at least then you know he's a good person with children. I take my hat off to any man who is mature enough to take on what is his responsibilites what a breath of fresh air you all are xx

Norf-london-boy wrote:

To all the single fathers, fellas I’m pig jealous of all of you, that you have your flesh and blood living with you full-time. My situation is like most men in the Uk, the women get it all in the family courts, fathers don’t have any rights what so ever, as soon as a relationship breaks down, and even tho you’re the best father in the world, she’ll get automatic rights, and you have to spend a fortune going through a back dated useless court system to have 2 weekends per month, if she doesn’t move across the country, and invent a illness, when it your turn to have the children.

So my advice to you all, when to shave every morning look at the man in the mirror and thank your lucky stars, your children are with  you.

Yes i do feel sorry for the genuine decent fathers out there who love and want time with their children shame not all are like that my lil un father couldnt give a damn even when she was in a life threatening accident he didnt even ask how she was now he has dumped her again. So i do believe that your children are lucky to have fathers who care xx

but then they grow up and leave you....aswell..??