Libido Problems | Relationship Issues

Hell no!

That would be for the couple to decide on, but I doubt such a relationship could be maintained for long before insecurities cased it to break down

sarahstheone wrote:

If a couple in an otherwise good and perfectly sound marriage, encounter a problem whereby one partner loses their libido for whatever reason, but their partner still maintains a normal **** drive, is it ok for that partner to seek discreet intimacy elsewhere to satisfy their needs, without ending a good marriage?

My ex wife developed a libido problem when we were walking back down the isle. 

ziggerzagger74 wrote:

sarahstheone wrote:

If a couple in an otherwise good and perfectly sound marriage, encounter a problem whereby one partner loses their libido for whatever reason, but their partner still maintains a normal **** drive, is it ok for that partner to seek discreet intimacy elsewhere to satisfy their needs, without ending a good marriage?

My ex wife developed a libido problem when we were walking back down the isle. 

It's the old, OLD story, isn't it?

Time and time again, we find that once the knot is tied, her enthusiasm depletes like some sad republic's weapons-grade plutonium!  Sorry ladies, I am not a mysogenist but there is a patttern emerging upon which I should comment.

I cannot help notice that this jaded spousal ennui tends to form a pattern that cannot help but cause concern!

WTF is the matter with these women?  It's like media has hyped up **** like some altruistic, cosmic enlightenment!

That and tales of princesses and knights and kissing frogs and happyeverafters!

And we, that believe in fairy tales , expect a matrimonial golden egg when reality crashes in.

Wonderful though love can be, expect it to be transient and reasonably fulfilling.

It is wonderful!

But it is not a god.

It isn't life, the unverse and everything!  It is only **** (and all the affective trimmings).

"It is what it is" - Ivana Trump 

Why is it that the last couple of posts have assumed that the question posed represents a diminution of a womann's libido?

There have been a couple of times when, because of overwork, I have not been the **** God I am now. If you love someone there is absolutely no reason why your partner should be dissatisfied. Let's face it, all it needs is a bit of imagination (and, perhaps, a couple of Duracell).

I work hard but nver had that problem. Does that make me a super **** god?

I have to admit I was working/on call 156 hrs a week at that time - 102 actually working, on call the rest , plus picking up my partner's son when he'd missed the last train..............Happy days.............and bloody long nights!

BTW, what are you smoking?

al-terego wrote:

I have to admit I was working/on call 156 hrs a week at that time - 102 actually working, on call the rest , plus picking up my partner's son when he'd missed the last train..............Happy days.............and bloody long nights!

BTW, what are you smoking?

ok thats excusable then. Smoking a pointy table decoration / party popper. what a night that was!

My personel feeling on this is absolutly no way whether it be the man or woman you need to work on the problem otherwise all that will happen is the so called otherwise good marriage/relationship will fall to pieces.........

What is needed is some, wait for it, wait for it..

Some Realism! 

By the way, having read some of the guys' retorts, I don't think I need be the self-conscious one! 

Har de har har har!

(Duracell, my arse!)

Bit of a bunny were you DC. Wink, wink, know what I mean

ICE-MAN30 wrote:

My personel feeling on this is absolutly no way whether it be the man or woman you need to work on the problem otherwise all that will happen is the so called otherwise good marriage/relationship will fall to pieces.........

Suppose the lack of libido was caused by a medical condition that had no cure?

sarahstheone wrote:

If a couple in an otherwise good and perfectly sound marriage, encounter a problem whereby one partner loses their libido for whatever reason, but their partner still maintains a normal **** drive, is it ok for that partner to seek discreet intimacy elsewhere to satisfy their needs, without ending a good marriage?

In most cases I think, no. But it seems to work for Avram Grant

The couple could always agree to swinging, in an attempt to spice things back up