How To Pull *General Advice* | Flirting Tips And Advice

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Now, hobbies are awesome. It shows you're passionate about something and women love a guy who has passion for something (unless its detrimental passions such as amassing a treasure trove of **** or trying to break the world record pie eating challenge). Don't be negative about something you enjoy. I personally love computer games and japanese cartoons, but its the underlying reasons of why I love them that is interesting. I'd tell a girl that games entertain me, they challenge me. I love how Japanese cartoons aren't just for children. They have intriguing stories which I like just as much as an interesting book, I love how art and television have fused into such a beautiful form of media. However, these things aren't just who I am! I like to show them other things I have a passion for.

You should try out new things too! You never know, you might find new things that might just be the next thing you're passionate about. Get yourself out there! Don't just go clubbing or pubbing! Check out clubs and shit. Become more social and be seen!

End notes - Girls get it easier!!Yeah right
Okay it all seems alot of effort right now, but don't try to change everything about yourself. Just that the more you change, the closer you get to becoming YOUR ideal self. However, if you do too much at once, it'll feel like a gargantuan effort and you'll risk giving up!

Now it seems like us blokes have got the raw end of the stick here, all this effort and thats only the beginning. You still gotta grow the balls to talk to these scary creatures and risk getting shot down regardless. Thats how it is unfortunately. But you should learn to enjoy the interaction. Its a man's role to chase after women and if you can't get over that, nothings gonna change Luckily, if you improve your lifestyle, you should be so cool that girls would start showing interest in you

Women don't have it any easier than men. They have to spend hours having to look good, wear make up, clothes, stay thin and all that. They do all that just to get the attention of men. Men would just jump at a woman who looks good physically and don't care about whether shes an angel or a nasty piece of work deep down. Think about it, its not a really nice reality for them to have to advertise themselves physically without guys caring about who they really are. So match their efforts, spend as much time working out as a woman would have keeping up with the latest trends. Most of all, don't just see them as a piece of meat, give them a chance to show themselves by going up to them and talk to them, not just "Hey love nice ****".

So have fun and be cool guys!

Well firstly the worst place to meet a girl must be online.
You immediately loose out on all the sub-communications, eye contact, chemistry and connection.
You don't really know who your friggin' dealing with.

This fighter-pilot perception of 'being shot down' is simply not true.
Women love to talk to guys.
Women are very kind, open and will give you loads of chances.

Also remember your perception is not her perception.
She may just come out of  a bad relationship or rehab.
Her reaction to you may have nothing to do with you at all.

When I was **** I was in my local pub and there was a disco on.
I went up to this girl and asked her to dance and she burst out crying.
Her friend ran across, put her protective arm round her, and gave me a reproachful glare !
“Leave her alone ! She's just broken up with her boyfriend”.
Even at that tender age I knew it was nothing to with me.
If she was so cut up about it, why did she come out in the first place ?
See, women just follow their feelings.
If they feel bad about something (like the past fella) and you come along , they transfer all that bad feeling to you.
I mean you're not a psychiatrist, you're not able to solve her problems, so don't try.

Last month, a friend was interested in this woman, so I winged him and talked to her mate.
She told me about her ex, how he'd had a gambling addiction, she'd been with him for 10 years.
After that she just didn't trust any bloke.
I said to her: “You know for your own sake, you ought to get rid of that judgemental attitude.
How you going to know what a guy is like if you've already prejudged him ?”
She gave me a look, like I'd just said some ultra smooth pick up line.
Christ, I was only telling her the truth.

As you said, just because she's pretty that doesn't mean she's a nice person, it doesn't mean she's trustworthy or loving.

The amount of guys on this site that are experts on women & relationships, is quite astonishing!

Yes, it's nearly as many as women experts on male behaviour.

reggielove wrote:

Yes, it's nearly as many as women experts on male behaviour.

Men are much easier to work out. Most of their actions are guided by their balls. It's a well known fact. Indeed, most honest guys will admit it.

Well your sophiscated psychological analysis does you credit.

Guess who browsed me today ?
Ol' Big Mod... do you think he fancies a man in uniform or what ?

reggielove wrote:

Well your sophiscated psychological analysis does you credit.

Guess who browsed me today ?
Ol' Big Mod... do you think he fancies a man in uniform or what ?

He's bound to!

I think one of the most interesting things about DTUK is figuring out who is who, what is real and what is fantasy.

When the General joined, this girl..... shy5blondy
winked at him, made him a friend,etc.

Her profile stated:-
Their chat up line: sarcastic - up for a challenge?

They are looking for: I know this sounds cruel and ageist but please please do not contact me if you are over 35 - I am a young girl who doesn't really want to be chatted up by or chat to guys any older than that - most of you just get filthy and its really not my thing. Thanks to everyone who has previously - this is the reason why I have written this!!

I was gonna ask you to email her for me, to see if she was genuine.
I mean you never know and Essex might be do-able.

Well the amount of email and chat messages that I still get from older men 50ish, is quite amazing. Initially I just deleted without a reply, but occasionally, out of curiosity, I reply and yes, they really do seem to think I could be interested in them and that they have a chance with me.

Now why is this? Is it all to do with testosterone or just blind hope in the face of overwhelming odds stacked against them, or what?

Seriously I'd love to know.

Firstly there's no barrier to Love
Race....different ages...woman older than man....shorter...taller.....etc.....etc....

Secondly, it's a biologically pre-installed basic command, hard wired in a man's brain to recognize pretty nubile women who have high reproductive value.
Men can look at 4 sketches, outlines of a female figure, and be asked which one do they prefer.
Now these near identical, but 70% of men pick out the woman with the hip to waist ratio of 7 to 10....or something like that.

reggielove wrote:

Firstly there's no barrier to Love
Race....different ages...woman older than man....shorter...taller.....etc.....etc....

Secondly, it's a biologically pre-installed basic command, hard wired in a man's brain to recognize pretty nubile women who have high reproductive value.
Men can look at 4 sketches, outlines of a female figure, and be asked which one do they prefer.
Now these near identical, but 70% of men pick out the woman with the hip to waist ratio of 7 to 10....or something like that.

Ok, fair point, but WHY in the name of Zeus, would they think I could be interested in them? Apart from the age gap, some of these guys could get a full time job on the top of church parapets. And as for their IQ, don't get me started!

Well I don't think there's a need to castigate them.
They want they want.
You want what you want.

All you got to do is focus on what you want and persue it till you get it.

DTUK is a bit of fun, not to be taken seriously.

Believe me, these guys take it very seriously!

When Humphrey Bogart met Lauren Bacall, she was 19, he was 45.

Well without googling the story but judging by the age gap, would I be right in thinking that he was an established actor and she was just a naive starlet? If so, can you at least understand the driving forces that precipitated this liaison?

Of course I know that affection and then love can develop between people regardless of age differences, that's just human nature. Obviously, actors working together in love scenes on a film set, will engender a highly charged, emotional atmosphere that will often lead to a personal relationship (do I need to detail all of the most famous examples?)

I was talking about ordinary, older guys with the IQs of sponges and the wit and charisma of breeze blocks, that think that they have something that'll make me tear my knickers off for them. Had you seen some of the messages, then perhaps you'd understand what I mean.

sarahstheone wrote:

I was talking about ordinary, older guys with the IQs of sponges and the intelligence, wit and charisma of breeze blocks.

Why are you concerned about what random guys think of you ?
They have never met you ?
They don't know you ?
Who cares ?
This is not Reality, Alice.

I wouldn't want to blame anyone on here (or anywhere on the Internet)
Hell, I don't know them.
I can't judge them.

No-one is forcing you to read or answer their e-mails
Then why do you ?
Perhaps you derive some satisfaction from their attention ?
Or like the opportunity it gives you, to be condescending and smug to them ?
It's not an attractive quality to laugh at others who are not as pretty, or young as you are.
These guys may be coming out of a relationship, maybe they are quixotic,  it's not very gracious or sympathetic of you to prejudge them as bad people.
What exactly are they guilty of ?
Wanting a happy Life ?
What are you accusing them of  ?
Spelling errors ? Bad syntax ?
Being egregious in having dangling past participles or possessive pronouns ?

If I go into a shop looking for a shirt and can't find one, I go to another shop.
I don't berate the shirts for not being what I wanted.

Fundamentally, the only thing you can change in this equation is YOU.
Don't you think we find, what we look for ?
If you are attracting unsuitable suitors, then whose fault is that ?
And who can do anything about it ?

P.S. I wouldn't question the intelligence of Sponges, they have no problems in their reproductive Life Cycles.
As for the wit and charisma of breeze blocks, there's a display of them in the Tate Modern - and that surely makes One chuckle to see Arty types studiously consider their inner meaning.
Indeed, maybe that is genius, to create wit, interest, out of the mundane.

Or like the opportunity it gives you, to be condescending and smug to them ?

This from the hypocrite that has hidden behind a myriad of characters on this site to poke fun at others?

As usual, you shoot off at the mouth without any understanding of the issues. This habit of engaging the claptrap without the brain cells, has been a constant failing of yours that I'm afraid shows no signs of improvement.

One day, I hope you'll realise that your obscure thought processes are out of sync with most people's and it's you that is the odd one out!

I very rarely get mad about anything, though I think you have a particular gift in evoking that emotion in me.

Gotta go, have a lovely day.
It really is a great world out there,
with great people in it.

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