Do Guys Like Single Moms? | Single Parents

women with kids - there's a reason their single mothers - yes i am afraid mr cynical has arrived - my advice stay well clear! sorry. 
I have tried doing the Samsonite thing, but it just gets in the way - and there`s a reason its called "baggage" ohh i do speak from experience btw! but I`ll put my flame retardant suit on just incase

cheers

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

Helena, I'm a single man who spent 2 years with a wonderful partner who had the most amazing daughter.   I was never really brought up around children and it did make me a little nervous not knowing what to expect...   What I understand in your post is that you need somebody there for you...   I was always very concious of that.   If we ever  had a big fight I'd never ever bring her daughter into the equation.   I'd never argue that I made a good father figure in a bid to rescue our relationship because as much as I loved her daughter, it wasn't about her.   She'd grow up one day and move out so if my ex and I had problems with shaky foundations, then we had to address those without using her daughter as ammunition.

There will be plenty of men who would understand your position and who'd love to spend their time on you and be there just for you   *cough cough*      Then you decide at a later stage how much involvement with your son you'd like to allow.   It is a strange divide but with good communication there's no reason why you couldn't have just what you're looking for.   Sorry to go on a bit there x

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

lol,chill out and stop worrying,im a single parent and that thought ever crossed my mind,people will like you for who you ae not what you are,a child isnt baggage its part of who you are,if people cant accept that well its their problem,just flick the middle finger and move on

Mmmm, well I'm one of those rare beasts, never been married (I never saw the point, what does a bit of paper prove) never wanted kids..................

I've tried the relationship with a single dad and I'd never do it again, certainly not if the kids are still dependant.

As other people have said, you not only take on the children but the 'ex' as well. You then throw in work, hobbies and you find you're someway down the pecking order in someones life.

I got heartly sick of having the plans we'd made always taking 4th place to everything else. Particularly annoying is when the 'ex's' plans take precedence.

I really do understand the children must come first, but that doesn't mean that the partner has to come last..........if you want a serious relationship then they have to been shown that they're important too.

So I know it narrows the field appreciably, but been there, got the t-shirt and I wont be doing it again.

I don't think it would matter to a decent chap and. You are a good looking young woman in your prime  and  deserve to meet the right sort of chap .

John884488 wrote:

Single mums are not attractive to shallow guys.  However, to guys who are developed as people they are more attractive than non-mums.

Singles mums tend to be mature and responsible.  They are less likely to be spoilt or selfish princesses.  They also have a great deal of **** appeal.

No agenda here - my last relationship was with with a single mum and I was gutted when we realised it wasn't going to work out.  We remain as good friends.  We had some amazing times together.

LOL............looks like I better produce a couple of sprogs then

I think most people think the same ,Personally it hasn't been an issue for me and as long as your truthful from the start about having children , Then the guy should understand your a package , And if not he is not the man for you.
I know it is different for me as my kids live with their mother but generally spend most of the week wih me ,But if i were to meet a woman who couldn't accept the fact that i have children then we just wouln't be together .I have dated women with children but my only advice is not to let the kids get too attached until your sure the relationship is going to be serious .anyway good luck .

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

i think ur fit n i like single mums

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

most guys dont i took a 6 year old boy on and we had a great time it never bothered me,then we had 2 girls together after 6 years together then we split,she had a affair say no more,wot iam trying to say i still c him now we have split and my girls all the time....

beth_brunet wrote:

I think that some men like single moms, as some women like single dads...others can't be bothered.
I'm a single mom and I met a great single dad. Life does go on and you will find someone for you.

Sorry have to ask the question why are you one here then?

no guys shouldnt be put off if ur the girl of there dreams then they would do anything for u !. im a single dad and if i meet the girl of my dreams and she has kids then fine that wont change the way i feel. but some guys are different than others and want different things

marky43 wrote:

women with kids - there's a reason their single mothers - yes i am afraid mr cynical has arrived - my advice stay well clear! sorry. 
I have tried doing the Samsonite thing, but it just gets in the way - and there`s a reason its called "baggage" ohh i do speak from experience btw! but I`ll put my flame retardant suit on just incase

cheers

There is a reason they are single mothers?????!!!!!
So speaks the heart of a bitter twisted man lol......maybe its because they were with a prat like......naming no names !!!!

go get him princess!!  (ouch)

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

Hi Helena

I suppose it depends whether they like kids or are used to them being around and how idealistic they are, speaking personally in the past I would have said yes but now as I am getting older and want kids of my own mainly because I  have taken on babysitting duties for my nephews and have seen them learn to walk, talk and develop personalities which I've found fascinating, I would personally have to say No(but I can only speak for myself).  I think you look beautiful in your photo and your profile is exactly what I would look for in a lady and the fact that you have an infant child would not stop me from trying to get to know you better and form a relationship/friendship with you, in fact it might show you would be willing to have more children in the future and is a definite plus

Keep your chin up

PS I'm not going to try bother to remove personal interests from my post unlike some others guys on this thread, its just a shame for me that you live 150 miles away but id love to chat sometime if you are at all interested

no guys think that single mums are easy and are only after one thing x

marky43 yes there is a reason y some of us are single parents because we was been cheated on

i certainly dont think having kids would be a problem i dont have any of my own but cannot get moved for nethews and neice and future partner would have to have their seal of approval or they would not let me.

also when the kids are around gives me a chance to be a big kid and get away with it!

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

To answer your question (my own opinion) 'YES' there are men out there who are comfortable if the lady has a child, it does not take anything away from what could be a lovely relationship. If the lady does want to involve the male at a later stage into her life with her child that is the decission of the lady and child, this does scare alot of men but as myself it does not, so dont give up on us men there are a some who enjoy life and all it possibilities. Have a good day and enjoy

I am only 25 and have no problems with women who have children has i love kids anyway. The only issue I have is the fact that i want kids myself one day and if I got into a serious relationship with somebody who already had children, would they be want more kids with me.

Im a singlemum with a four month old daughter,my x wanted a baby with me then when i got pregnant decided it wasnt for hm and hs never seen his daughter,where do i go from here? yes it may take me 6 more months before i even think about getting involved with someone but whats going through my head is i dont want to be dating too many men,i would like to find the right one!