Do Guys Like Single Moms? | Single Parents

How refershing that some men think a woman with children is more responsible and mature and less inclined to be a prima donna! But it is lovely to be with a wonderful man and in a relationship where you can be irresponsible sometimes too, rather than making decisions and being the strong one all the time! If someone is put off by the thought of a relationship with a single parent then that's their baggage...I'd love the idea of meeting a man who had children or experience of them and knew how much fun it can be! Caring, gentle capable hands - very ****!

Hi my names darren and if I like a woman the fact that she has children isn't an issue. I am 26 I have now been single for 12 months and am a single dad. When me and my ex got together I had no children but she had 2 from previous relationship. The fact she had children didn't impact on my feelings for her in the slightest. We have now split after 3 years and have custody of my son ( long story ) if you think being a single mom and dating is difficult I am finding exactly the same in reverse. I meet a woman and we get on great but as soon as they find out I have my son they run a mile. It works both ways x x it shouldn't but it seems to be x x

Have never personally dated any single mothers knowingly,but i have a lot of nieces and nephews that i basically consider to be my kids most of the time,so i say i'd have no problem dating a woman with children,so i say to helenaBC....stick in there,your a beautiful young woman with a good heart...there is that perfect guy for you,and i hope you find him soon.

ok wel i am a single mum.... n yea i ave 2 say 4 a long time i felt dat, dat was it... im on my own 4 eva..... i just always thought who wants 2 b tied down wif a kid dats not ders...  but as u learn life goes on, an ders always a mister rite out der sumwer, wen u least expect it.... x

As a single guy who's never had a girlfreind - yes you read that correct - an no that's not a lie (what would be the point?, my lies are as transparrent as glass anyway) nor been on a date ever I can only say that you have to approach each situation on it's own merits.

The person you are attempting to have a relationship with is an individual with their own unique set of circumstances - you cannot just lump every "single parent" into a single box.

Thinking in narrow terms like this is probably not the greatest start in the world.

Of course there are a lot of issues revolving around the child/children of the other person.

If they make you smile and laugh and you do likewise then....

"Touch passion when it comes your way. It's rare enough as it is. Don't walk away when it calls you by name." - Marcus Cole, "Lines of Communication", Babylon 5
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"I didn't know that similarity was required for the exercise of compassion" - Delenn, "Confessions and Lamentations", Babylon 5

Well Mavmaramis, hope you find someone on here! Your posts seem very insightful for a guy who has been on his own so long.
I am definitely no seasoned expert in the dating game myself but I am finding it is not as scary as I once thought.

I suppose the bottom line is that if kids are a problem for a potential partner then then that person is not right.

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

helena there is no way that all guys are scared of this at all , i can say this from past trials when i was seeing a single mum who had a young lad of about 2 yrs old and we were so in love but she failed to tell me that her ex was interfearing so i called it a day but then she tried to use it against me  so that could be some what of a turn off if you say that you were engaged will your ex come bback or turn up one day if you are with someone else and try and change things for the childs sake?

But are single mums attracted to single dads for the long term, or is the single man a more inviting option?

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

hi , well ive become a single parent yet again , firstly i was single parent 20yr ago , worked hard , then met a man freind who id new for yrs we got together then i had 3 children to hi we was married for 12yr then he desided he wanted thefreedom of a single man agen datin the women haha sooo once agen im on my own a lot older bringin my 3 younger kids up , but may be one day il meet a nice guy !!!!!  well i can dream think im too old for the dateing part now xxxx

No doubt most younger guys will shy away from a woman who has a kid(s). Most men who are single in their 30's or older have come to accept that there is a good chance women you date WILL have at least 1 child and/or be divorced.  Honestly, I would scratch my head if I met a women in her 30's and she didn't have one of those deals above.

I have just come to realize that after you get out of your 20's the whole dating world changes ... part of maturing and growing up.  There are a ton of good guys that could care less about you having a child.  I will say, don't make it awkward and don't wait to bring it out.  I mean don't tell him before he gets his name out , but don't wait too long.  Make sure to be confident and proud of ur lil' one when you talk about him.  If the guy is uncomfortable when u tell him then it most likely was NOT meant to be, period.  Keep tryin' honey, u'll find him!

Slycat

I have a son and a daughter unfortunatley my relationship with my son is not great through no choice of my own but anybody i meet will always know straight from the start i come as a package as i have regular contact with my daughter.

you will eventually find the right partner out there who adores kids and will take you and your son on and i know you said that it was about you and not your son, but any bloke will treat him as there own i did with my ex-partner with her son but still gave her the love and attention she wanted as well

good luck

hello there, me, well i love to have the chance to date a single mum, mainly because being a single father of 3 kids, she would know whats its like having kids and knowing what they need in their lives.plus, the bonus part would be watching our kids blending together and growing,and watching our two families living together as one,

To be left in the position you were in the first place was downright rotten..!! But reading on,you say how it is...you are always going to be enough for your little one,and they always come first no matter what..!
But reading through most of the replies,you would realise that its not about if you've got a child,its about how a man see's you first & foremoste...and if he's the right one he will love you & your little one!
I myself have 3 lovely girls that don't live with me, and now my ex-wife has a new partner who I am pleased to say is really good with my girls....and strangely...I get on with him now! But thats because of the decent things that he does for them,and the way that he is around them!
As some of the other guys have said...now adays a woman with a child is commonplace,and hopefully you will meet someone that will make you and your little one both really happy.
Am I an old-romantic or just living with the hope that there's still hope for all of us (lol).

when you meet a woman with kids its part of the package , you got to accepect it kid always come first no matter what

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

Hey flower, I wonder the same thing as you, but have to tell you that you look like a very beautiful woman, so from one woman to another, I would have thought that any guy that had the good sense to get involved with you, would not only relish the fact that they are in a relationshaip, but have the bonus of a gorgeous child too. Good luck hun. x

Hi Helena,

The majority perception for guys is that woman + child = no-no.
But that's only a perception and there are plenty of exceptions. In fact, once you reach 40 you'll find most couples have at least one child from a previous relationship.
Also, if the kid is really engaging, a guy who yearns for a family will want to become a father first and husband second.

You might be finding things a bit frustrating now, but looking at your photo I'd say you'll have no worries long term. And who needs fellas when you have a youngster giving you all that love ?

Good health.
Zinzan

It would be a no-no for me. I've had nothing but bad experiences where single mums are involved. On each occasion the ex (Childs father) still causes a lot of problems for the girl and it ends up feeling like theres 4 people in the relationship!

in answer to helenabc,  this question has also popped in to my head at times....at 50 i am now of say a mature age..if i was a young man   say in my early twentys  i may think twice about dating a woman with young kids, especially a toddler as i would like to be out and about enjoying my youth....if i was in my 30's   then i would have no problem with dating a younger mum  with kids  could still enjoy life but would have to make allowances for the childs and the mothers needs ( child care ) etc .  now i am older and grown up  i am not sure if i would be  able to date a young woman( if i even got the chance)  who had toddlers , teenagers yes , my son is a teenager who lives with me but has special needs never used to mention this fact on my profile had lots of interest if i may say so  but as soon as i mentioned him in conversation  the little  chat light would go out never to come on again , friends would say well there not worth getting to know then are they......but i can understand why they do , older women mainly have teenagers  who do there own thing  and  may feel my son would be an hinderence to me dating , which he is'nt.  i have also noted women who have children on the profile would put on their profile that they would like to meet some one who lives a lone or has no kids , so it works both ways

Guys aren't timid of dating a single mum. They're just afraid of the fact that if eventually your old guy re-appear to the scene and you give in to him being the father of your child, it's possible you do that, the new guy would consider himself loose-out of the process. For this reason, single unmarried guy with no child won't like to date a mum.

Equally important, from another perspective, guys don't like to date mum because they're afraid the woman mayn't be able to conceive again. Because of this, some guys wouldn't want to consider a single mum...

However, if both of them are single mum and single dad, the relationship will work fine. If anything happens, eventually, both of them know, from the start, that is a game that will end up draw. Nobody's loosing in the process.

Id date a single mom , as long as there is chemistry between us then everything else dont matter plus I love kids so thats a bonus.