Do Guys Like Single Moms? | Single Parents

I dont know what guys think but i feel like yes we are at a disadvantage on the dating game but i dont care. I would like to say its great to see a single mother that doesn't want a guy to take care of them or their kids. More over now you have a little person whom you love very much and who won’t let you be bored for lack of a man. Take a deep breath, and like wanderbaby suggested perhaps take a break and focus on you and baby before seriously looking for someone to mess up your life even more lol

I think that some men like single moms, as some women like single dads...others can't be bothered.
I'm a single mom and I met a great single dad. Life does go on and you will find someone for you.

No worries, for most MATURE man, we realize that the older we get the rarer you can find a woman my age without at least one child. I actually prefer to date women with children because then they understand firsthand, the sacrifices that I make for my six year old son.

I dare say some people would be put of a lady if she has children.
From a personal point of view, I would rather be with a lady that has children and be happy, than be with someone with no children and not be happy.

This only my opinion of course but its going to depend on the person you meet and their age and circumstances. I am a dad of 3 great kids 3,7,9. My little girl was in the centre pages of my local paper today in her nativity, I am so proud!

Before I had kids i didnt even notice them! If someone handed me a baby I didnt feel anything other than 'wow this is heavier than they look'. There is an unmistakable bond between parents and their own children that is imposible to explain to someone who does not have kids yet.

As a seperated faher i now have that valuable appreciation of what having kids means and what a commitment it is and how much time it takes up etc. That puts me in a position to at least understand 'parenthood' that a single man can only guess at. That doesnt mean a fella cant grow to view a child as his own and it doesnt mean that he wont be a good dad to someones baby. But that special bond wont be there at the outset.

I'd say that an older child is going to be different again as a 7 yr old boy might help 'dad' wash the car, go swimming etc and start bonding in many different ways over time.

In short a fella might not feel comfortable with a child that is not his own if he doesnt have kids already but this can grow into good things over time. What i would say is that you should be aware that he is becoming dad and let him be that dad or it wont work if you only call the shots where kids are concerned.

It's almost inevitable that when you are looking for love all over again it's likely that there will be children involved and anyone who really likes you won't care.

My brother has just made me an uncle with a wonderfull girl he met at a gig a few years back, she already had a little boy and although I don't think he had any specific intention of being a replacement dad I guess it was part of the package and now intends to adopt him so they can become a complete family.

It certainly wouldn't put me off nor do I think it would put off any man that's was worth his salt.

I would prefer the future love of my life to have children,as i have 2 little girls who i adore and see regular.We would both then understand each others commitment to our kids and should make the realationship better.

hi yea some men like women with kids  some dont but if u want some one whos got kids then u got to have the all the packages i dont mine if they do or dont have kids not to fussed  from david email me

what chances  do you think a single mum with a grown up son with speacal needs has on these dating sites ?

i have to say that for myself that i would not mind dating someone that has children as i like kids and for some strange reason kids like me and i also think that a muture man would think the same

helenaBC wrote:

So I got pregnant and was engaged....he left me when I was six months pregnant...i gave birth.....so i was stuck with heartache and a beautiful child.....so now im okay im a wonderful mom and i have a beautiful son....but do guys actually like single moms? i am not looking for a father for my child... i am and will always be enough parent for him.....i am not looking for anyone to take care of him ...i can do that .....i am just looking for someone for ME....with hopes that they love my son too ....if not then i dont need them...Do guys get scared when you tell them you have a toddler? infant in my case...??? Just wondering really...would appreciate replies.

I dated someone who had two kids and it wasn't an issue for me.

It was a case that she had two separate lives. One with her kids and one with me.  I usually only saw her when the kids were with their father or her mother so I was not too involved in their lives; after all, I was there for her not her kids.

I don't think a guy would be scared off you because you have a child.

I think that most men without ties would generally prefer not to suddenly find themselves 'family men'. However, it's a 2-way street, and I think most women without ties would feel the same about a single man (like me) with children.

I can't imagine that you'll be judged for having had children in a previous relationship - after all, we're living in the 21st century! - it's more the fact that you have children, not how/with whom you had them.

Good luck and I hope the right man comes along.

I think as others have said it depends on the individual. As a separated father with my two girls living here I can imagine that would could be quit scary for a girl - it's quite a big package - 3-for-the-price-of-one

On the other hand - before I had kids I found the concept quite scary because I knew nothing about them. It's not until you hold them in your arms then watch them grow that you realise they're just little people and not really all that scary - but can be a lot of fun.

So I think it's too much of a generalisation to suggest that guys don't like single mothers. You just need the right guy - if he doesn't show any interest in your child and only wants to see you when she's elsewhere then that probably doesn't bode well.

Like most women who are for whatever reason now find themselves a single parent which I have been for several years and now decided would again like to meet someone for friendship, chat and possible relationship if it was with the right person.  I'm not looking for a father figure for my children or use a man for financial reasons.  Like most I would be cautious in inviting someone in my life and initally my children would be in the background until I feel at ease with the other person.

so i did not read all the posts...i want to ask what is a single person less than others....absolutely nothing less than she/he has a child and they have a responsibilty....now i have to tell u now that i have dated some beautifull women who have had welll lets say "show dogs" and i came second best
my only advice is to stick in there and show you are better than the pet....give ut 3 tries and put it down do mental illness on his/her part

The thing to do is compose any profile primarily about yourself, If you get chatting to someone that you really like- they'll ask questions about your current situation. Keeping in mind is that any children you have are the priority.

If the person is right then it really doesn't matter. I mean I am a single guy with no responsibilities that way but that doesn't mean that I would be incapable of helping with a child. I would accept that I am going to be secondary in that person's life as the child should always come first.

I cant really say for others, but I certainly wouldn't be put off by it. My ex had two children from a previous relationship, even though we split I still think of the kids as my own and still see them. There are still genuine guys out there who are family minded but the problem I think we have is we are troubled by what the kids think of us.

Single mums are not attractive to shallow guys.  However, to guys who are developed as people they are more attractive than non-mums.

Singles mums tend to be mature and responsible.  They are less likely to be spoilt or selfish princesses.  They also have a great deal of **** appeal.

No agenda here - my last relationship was with with a single mum and I was gutted when we realised it wasn't going to work out.  We remain as good friends.  We had some amazing times together.