Can You Cheat On A Person You Are Truly In Love With? | Relationship Issues

If you cheat, you're not truly in love, it's as simple as that! It's not fair to the other person involved. Just because you say it, it doesn't make it true. Truth is a state of being.

I think people cheat because their needs are not being met!!!! You can totally love someone, but they aren`t taking care of your needs due to whatever reason.... But still, if one partner or the other isn`t happy....you need to have communication!!!!

The only what I’d like to add is that if you’ve cheated once you’ll do it again and again till you meet your truly love.

I agree with alisweets, if your needs are not met then you are more likely to stray. Some people are born strayers who find commitment difficult anyhow. Try and avoid these people!

I agree with OCEAN_BWAVE

AliSweets! do you have something you want to tell us?

I have been cheated on by my husband. This was just confirmed to me last month despite all of his lies throughout the last 2.5 years. He told me he just wanted something different, because we had been together since we were 17 years old.  I am not a prude in the bedroom, I love to have **** a lot, and in different positions and places. He did not want or initiate anything different.  I bought some saucey stuff to spice things up, but he laughed at me. He had been seeing this person for the same amount of time that he stopped having **** with me.  Yes, I know what you are going to say, why do I stay with him.  It's simple, love. He has promised to stop this relationship, and focus back on us.  I have given him 1 year to change.  In the meantime, I have 2.5 years of lost **** to catch up on. Laugh!!

Well id have to say no, I wouldn't cheat if i loved someone x

hotlips40 wrote:

I have been cheated on by my husband. This was just confirmed to me last month despite all of his lies throughout the last 2.5 years. He told me he just wanted something different, because we had been together since we were 17 years old.  I am not a prude in the bedroom, I love to have **** a lot, and in different positions and places. He did not want or initiate anything different.  I bought some saucey stuff to spice things up, but he laughed at me. He had been seeing this person for the same amount of time that he stopped having **** with me.  Yes, I know what you are going to say, why do I stay with him.  It's simple, love. He has promised to stop this relationship, and focus back on us.  I have given him 1 year to change.  In the meantime, I have 2.5 years of lost **** to catch up on. Laugh!!

Sorry to hear that, Not funny at all.........

hotlips40 wrote:

I have been cheated on by my husband. This was just confirmed to me last month despite all of his lies throughout the last 2.5 years. He told me he just wanted something different, because we had been together since we were 17 years old.  I am not a prude in the bedroom, I love to have **** a lot, and in different positions and places. He did not want or initiate anything different.  I bought some saucey stuff to spice things up, but he laughed at me. He had been seeing this person for the same amount of time that he stopped having **** with me.  Yes, I know what you are going to say, why do I stay with him.  It's simple, love. He has promised to stop this relationship, and focus back on us.  I have given him 1 year to change.  In the meantime, I have 2.5 years of lost **** to catch up on. Laugh!!

hi ,you better start catching up the 2.5 years and get another 2.5 in credit , just in case. xxxxxxxxx

I was with someone who I felt I loved.

However, I met someone in a bar (I wasn't looking to cheat or anything like that) and we became good friends. The feelings I had for my new friend were much stronger then the ones I had for my partner.  This made me decide to leave my partner.

If you truly love someone you would not cheat on them.  I realised that my ex was not 'the one' as we had grown apart and I had feelings for someone else.  If I had truly loved her then the feelings I had for my friend would not have been an issue.

hotlips40 it just rots your soul having lots of **** with loads of people. the best **** is with somone you really love and loves you back!

we just have to find that special person.

behaving like a **** just takes away from that so dont deprave yourself my friend!

If you are really in love with someone...no, you cant cheat...the problem with cheating partners is that they dont have at home what they get outside...and NO, not al the times they would be looking for ****! Lots of times they need someone to listen to them , someone who they can talk to, a friend, and many times is the exitment of doing something wrong.But, hey, if you learn how to listen to your partner needs and make sure that you always treat her/him how they deserve to, then for sure cheating would much hard to happen.

It depends on what you call cheating.

If you mean a one night stand, then yes, definitely.  You can be completely enamoured of someone and still be sexually attracted to someone else, it's just natural. But if you're really in love with someone then every emotion you feel for them is that much more powerful, and that includes when you fall out with them (and there'll always be times you don't see eye-to-eye). In that situation - particularly if someone's embittered and has had too much to drink - mistakes can be made.

The important thing is not the mistake, but the resolution of that mistake. If you really love that person that you were unfaithful to for just one night, you'll tell them voluntarily because you won't be able to keep it secret - guilt is a powerful thing in a relationship. However, if you make the same mistake again.. and again... and again.... then no, you're either not in love or else you're not worthy of an honest person.  Unfortunately, it seems the latter scenario is all too common.

But hang on you guys! In "olden" days, when you found the woman of your dreams,and she afforded everything you needed you committed mind,body life itself. Now,just with a "click" you have the temptation of zillions of women at your fingertips......perhaps just to boost your male ego?perhaps to excite that 1 tiny curiosity as to whether you still have "pulling power"? or perhaps just to go with the flow and something to discuss with the lads, or is it that hidden fettish that you cannot explain to your partner????? Technology has made it more difficult to stay with 1 and easier to roam......!!!!GIRLS, listen up........dating a guy over an internet site means you have to accept that you maybe about to join a secret hareem!!

shainablond wrote:

GIRLS, listen up........dating a guy over an internet site means you have to accept that you maybe about to join a secret hareem!!

No more than a guy has to accept that a woman could have another 20 men on the go - it works both ways!

If you get an unfaithful man he'll find plenty of temptation in the local pub anyway. If you get a good one it doesn't matter how much temptation you throw at him he'll stay with you.

If I were to find someone it wouldn't matter where I met them, they would never be part of a harem, and nobody else should either, whatever **** they are.

Love is a rare feeling, it's very difficult to distinguish love from all the strong feelings, and each of these feelings - one from the other. Mostly we like somebody, are fond of them, slightly/strongly sympathise with or just very passionate about them. The most important thing is the compatibility: if you're very compatible, you'll think 100 times whether this cheat is really worth it!

<or is it that hidden fettish that you cannot explain to your partner?????>

Eeeeks!  Yep, have definitely had that one happen!!  LOL

I have been unhappily married for 13 long years, I have been very patient with myself having yearly tours abroad but regardless of this unhappy marriage, I never cheated, but it is obvious that we are all different. I know if I could find a person to love my trust would be depending alone with my own faith.