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Hi Sherry,
Its the most offensive thing ever,but i do believe they are the minority of men who are here just to 'score'.
If i get mail i check my activity,if they havnt browsed me i feel that same message went to god knows how many women,they obviously just mass send in the hope that just one might reply. Thats why they dont fill in their profile,they feel they dont need too. I had a chap message me,seemed very nice, just chatting you know and it turned out it wasnt even his picture and he was shocked when i refused to speak to him again, he really didnt get the honesty thing!

I understand what you're saying MissD they come on to these sites after a quickie with someone and as I've said in my profile if they can't be bothered to make the effort to show a pic or fill in their profile properly then it just shows they'll put little effort in to anything else they're doing.

I've actually complained to the web site as I'm so sick of so many fake profiles and men who are constantly contacting me.  Luckily whilst I've deleted their messages I've not done it completely so a list of names will be forwarded to the site organisers soon.  I'm not sure much will be done to stop these people and they'll just come back as soon as someone else anyone so it does make me wonder why I'm bothering.

I'd like to return the question.... I keep getting emails from some lovely looking/sounding (yes I read theirs) ladies and yet if they actually read mine, they'd see how to get in touch with me...???   I've had 1 person actually follow my profile and get in touch via facebook.   So why don't women read our profiles? 

It's a fair point, the gals are as bad as the boys and regretably there are more of them than there are of us....................it's such a shame, it makes finding the good folk so more difficult having so much dross about.

Ive had a few mails from girls that have not read my profile, So how can they say there "Very interested" when they know nothing about me !

Mathew_is wrote:

Ive had a few mails from girls that have not read my profile, So how can they say there "Very interested" when they know nothing about me !

HI MATHEW,NO 1 CAN GET TO KNOW YOU BY READING YOUR PROFILE,THEY ONLY GET TO KNOW WHAT YOUR TELLING THEM AND IF THEY SAY THERE INTERESTED GAVE THEM A GO,GET TO CHATTING FING OUT MORE ABOUT THEM AMD LET THEM KNOW MORE ABOUT YOU,GOOD LUCK

Hi Sherry

I had a real mental block when I did mine. I hate looking at those huge boxes anfd thinking omg I have to fill that!!

Plus I dont want what I write to sound corney or contirved.

missdemenour6 wrote:

Hi Sherry,
Its the most offensive thing ever,but i do believe they are the minority of men who are here just to 'score'.
If i get mail i check my activity,if they havnt browsed me i feel that same message went to god knows how many women,they obviously just mass send in the hope that just one might reply. Thats why they dont fill in their profile,they feel they dont need too. I had a chap message me,seemed very nice, just chatting you know and it turned out it wasnt even his picture and he was shocked when i refused to speak to him again, he really didnt get the honesty thing!

The mind boggles sometimes at the things other folk do!

Although I agree if you clearly state you have no interest in anyone with children, and a person sends you mail which includes how much they love their children, it would have to indicate either a failure at basic reading (or at least comprehension) or not having bothered to read your profile in the first place.  That type of mail get as much attention as they gave to my profile.

I refer to other sites of course, since on here I can't respond anyway to anything due to being a standard member.

I have to agree with you, Sherry, and glad you've done the right thing by reporting the abuse. Guys like this, who trawl the site looking for easy ****, are a nuisiance-they put women off, give us genuine blokes a bad image we don't deserve, and are hiding thier identities to avoid discovery by thier existing partners. They shouldn't be on here, there are **** contact sites for that purpose and they are abusing us.

I can see how it is difficult for the site admin to control this, though, and cannot think of a way around it.

But I must point out, Sherry, that all too many women also do not bother to fill in thier profiles, and some, like Misdemeanor who makes some good points, don't bother with photos either. As a man who is here looking for a serious relationship with a suitable, genuinely interested partner, I find this irritating. It's hard to fill the boxes, I know, and i know because I bothered to do it-so why didn't they?

My experience of the site, which I have now been using for some 3 months, is that there was an initial flood of responses from gay blokes and foreign **** who obviously hadn't bothered with my profile. Now, and perhaps as a result of becoming involved with the forums, I am starting to attract what may be the start of more genuine interest-women who have winked or browsed me. I have checked their profiles and responded, although as yet matters have not progressed any further. But I'm not going to waste my time on women who don't provide profiles or photos (I'm not talking about the odd blank box, but complete blank profiles here). In short, I try to find out as much as I can about women I am interested in and expect them to do the same to me.

So this is an issue by no means restricted to women, although we men do not seem to attract the outright abusiveness and nastiness that women do. Keep at it, lovely Sherry, we are not all like that, honest!!!

Sherry59 wrote:

Ok you guys out there a couple of questions for you regarding profiles:

1.  How come you guys rarely fill your profile in?

2.  How come you rarely check out a females profile before contacting her?

My profile is pretty full and I always look at profiles before contacting people.

Personally I think that if the site was to make it a rule (Which would cut down their income) and make it compulsory to post a proper photo, not one of their dog or car, this would alleviate a lot of the problem.

Sherry59 wrote:

Ok you guys out there a couple of questions for you regarding profiles:

1.  How come you guys rarely fill your profile in?

2.  How come you rarely check out a females profile before contacting her?

I filled mine in, although it did seem harder than i thought it would. Maybe blokes find it harder to describe themselves.

hornymre wrote:

I'd like to return the question.... I keep getting emails from some lovely looking/sounding (yes I read theirs) ladies and yet if they actually read mine, they'd see how to get in touch with me...???   I've had 1 person actually follow my profile and get in touch.   So why don't women read our profiles? 

Because the women on here want to talk to guys on here until they feel they know you and feel safe enough to give further info. We don't want your facebook id, personal e mail after the first message.

So many good points raised.  I've had "interested" messages from guys in their twenties, want kids, live abroad, etc etc etc.  They haven't browsed my profile, or they think I'll be interested back, even though profiles totally mis match.  Although I've met up with one really nice guy, who turned out to be genuine (sadly, we didn't "spark") I'm now tired of receiving messages from guys who, after one response from me, want e-mails, more photos, or worse, want my e-mail so they can send more photos.  I know there are genuine guys out there, it's just a long process separating the wheat from the chaff.  I live in hope.....

angel150 wrote:

So many good points raised.  I've had "interested" messages from guys in their twenties, want kids, live abroad, etc etc etc.  They haven't browsed my profile, or they think I'll be interested back, even though profiles totally mis match.  Although I've met up with one really nice guy, who turned out to be genuine (sadly, we didn't "spark") I'm now tired of receiving messages from guys who, after one response from me, want e-mails, more photos, or worse, want my e-mail so they can send more photos.  I know there are genuine guys out there, it's just a long process separating the wheat from the chaff.  I live in hope.....

Keep trying,

Will keep trying.  Life throws obstacles in our paths but a wee leap gets us over them to race on to next hurdle.  If life was to easy, we'd never appreaciate what really counted - good friends etc.

angel150 wrote:

Will keep trying.  Life throws obstacles in our paths but a wee leap gets us over them to race on to next hurdle.  If life was to easy, we'd never appreaciate what really counted - good friends etc.

That's a geat positive attitude, you'll find what you're looking for.

Sherry59 wrote:

Ok you guys out there a couple of questions for you regarding profiles:

1.  How come you guys rarely fill your profile in?

2.  How come you rarely check out a females profile before contacting her?

I have the same problem when looking at the majority of women's profiles. They upload a picture of themselves then usually leave all the boxes blank or sometimes they may bother to add a sentence or two. When i see this i get the impression they can't be bothered and are not taking it seriously. I also think that a lot of people with blank profiles don't bother adding info because they're not paying members and don't see the point if they don't have full access to the site. Don't get me wrong i know some non paying members do put effort into their profile though but i can't help but think that they're the minority.

On the second point it wasn't long before i was rated and winked at by girls who haven't even looked at my profile. Although i don't mind getting winked at it would be nice to no they at least had a look at my profile.